Anthony Onwuha's Blog

Have you ever stopped to think why only very few people have amazing relationships? Did they just get lucky? Are they the chosen ones? Perhaps. But seriously, most of us would agree, wouldn’t we, that great relationships take work? The problem is, more often than not, we have no idea what to work on. Over years , it was observed that all successful relationships exhibit four simple yet fundamental habits, which will be shared with you in this text. The great news is that these are habits that we can all learn and develop, and when we do, we significantly increase our chances of having one of those amazing relationships. Relationship breakdown is a huge problem. To solve a problem of this scale, borrowing a phrase from medical science, we need better fences at the top of the cliffs rather than more ambulances at the bottom. In the context of relationships, these four habits are strong fences. All relationships face hurdles triggered by life events: setting up a house, having a bab...

  Embracing the Life-Changing Nature of Marriage Marriage is a profound and beautiful institution, but it is also life-changing. As the Apostle Paul states in 1 Corinthians 7, when you're single, your primary concern is to serve the Lord without distraction.  However, once you marry, your responsibilities shift towards caring for your spouse. This shift requires a deep reliance on God's guidance, allowing Him to engineer the details of your life.  Trusting God with your marriage provides a foundation of confidence, especially when facing trials, as you can be assured that this union is part of His plan. The Power of Being an Example One of the most critical aspects of parenting is being a consistent example. Our actions and choices speak far louder than our words. Children notice when we prioritize God in our lives—whether in our thoughts, our fear and love of God, or our commitment to the claims of Christ.   These priorities should permeate every aspect of life...

  Raising Self-Reliant, Resilient, and Initiative-Driven children. As parents, we all share the common goal of raising children who are self-reliant, resilient, and capable problem-solvers. We envision our kids stepping confidently outside their comfort zones, taking on challenges, and thriving in life. The question is how do we nurture these qualities effectively? The Parental Paradox: Shielding vs. Enabling Our natural instinct is to protect our children from hurt and disappointment, aiming to foster their happiness and success. We praise them liberally to boost their self-esteem, indulge them to ensure they fit in, and often step in to prevent their failure. This approach, though well-intentioned, may have unintended consequences. We might be raising children who fear taking risks, lack confidence in their problem-solving abilities, and struggle with transitioning into adulthood. The Consequences: Young Adults Stuck in Limbo Recent trends indicate a growing number of y...

  Four Words That Can Change Your Marriage When it comes to marriage, there are four words that can make a profound difference. You might be curious about what these words are, and I’ll reveal them shortly. We'll delve into the guidance found in Ephesians 5 and 1 Corinthians 13. Analogy: In a previous message on marriage, I mentioned the "idiot light" on a car's dashboard, indicating low oil. Ignoring such warnings can be disastrous. Similarly, the low fuel warning should never be ignored. Yet, many marriages today are running on empty or merely on fumes. This is avoidable because God not only provides us with the blueprint for a successful marriage in His Word, but He also empowers us to implement these principles. Principle: The fundamental truth is that God designed marriage. It's His creation, intended to function as He laid out, without human alterations. When we adhere to His plan, our marriages can thrive. Scripture: Ephesians 5 outlines the roles within m...

  Parenting is a journey filled with challenges and joys, and one of the most crucial elements for finding joy and patience in this journey is resting in God's presence and grace. Let's face it: parenting is hard. There are moments that test our patience and endurance. In those moments, it's crucial to remember that we are not alone in our parenting journey. Resting in the knowledge that God is in us, for us, and with us can provide immense comfort and strength. The passage known as the Great Commission at the end of the book of Matthew is a powerful reminder for all parents. Jesus says, "All power is given to me in heaven and earth." This means that no situation, location, or relationship in parenting is outside the rule of King Christ. Furthermore, Jesus promises, "Lo, I am with you always." This assurance that God is with us in every moment, promising never to leave or forsake us, is profoundly comforting. . He bore it all so that even on our worst...

  Picture your marriage as a vast, open grassy field. On the day you enter this field, full of hope and joy, you see a breathtaking panorama stretching out before you—rolling hills, vibrant flowers, lush grass, sturdy trees, and a clear blue sky under the warm caress of a gentle breeze. This idyllic vision represents the relationship you envision with your partner, a lifelong journey through a beautiful landscape. On your wedding day, you look at each other and think, “I want to walk through this beautiful field with you forever.” As you take your first steps into this field together, everything seems perfect. The grass is green, the flowers bloom brightly, the hills and trees promise adventure and comfort, the sunshine is warm, and the breeze is cool. You believe this is how it will always be. But soon, reality sets in. You encounter unexpected obstacles—cow pies, so to speak—scattered across the field. In some seasons, they seem to be everywhere. You begin to wonder, "Where did ...

  Marriage is a deeply personal and significant institution that many view through a partisan lens, as it is often influenced by religious or semi-religious convictions about human life and its meaning. John Witte Jr., a major legal scholar at Emory University and an expert in the history of marriage law, asserts that all views of marriage are rooted in these fundamental beliefs. Whether one supports lenient or stringent divorce laws, these views stem from underlying convictions about human nature, rights, and societal roles, which are inherently non-scientific and quasi-religious. In contemporary society, the viability and desirability of marriage are increasingly questioned. A generation ago, 75% of American adults were married; today, this figure has declined to 50%. In this context, the Christian perspective on marriage offers valuable insights. This discussion will explore the essence of marriage, its mission, and its underlying principles, drawing on the Christian viewpoint...